Wedding Ceremonies

Ring Ceremony Gay Wedding

Whether you are having a same-sex wedding ceremony, a gay wedding, a civil union ceremony, or a commitment ceremony, here is some sample wedding ceremony wording that is more appropriate for your particular situation. Using this template, we can "tweak" the terms to make your ceremony exactly what you want it to be. In these pages you will find sermons, readings, optional prayers, and other wedding ceremony ideas.

These sample wedding ceremonies are only a beginning. I've performed a full Catholic Mass for a lesbian couple. I performed a wedding for a transgender couple where the biologically-defined man was about to have sex reassignment surgery to become a legally-married lesbian couple. I have performed weddings for couples who have not "come out," and I respect their privacy. I have performed weddings for couples with AIDS. Each couple brings with them their own special needs, each expresses their love in ways unlike any other. It is always an honor to work together with couples to create a ceremony that illuminates their love in a way that allows them to shine.

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Let us help you create your affordable wedding ceremony that reflects your personalities and beliefs. Most of our couples choose the nondenominational Christian wedding ceremony option, but many also bring Jewish, Catholic, civil or other ceremony ideas to us. We're here to answer all your questions about seating, etiquette, and other practical details. We can even be your "neutral zone," navigating you through possible rough patches when challenging family members are on your guest list!

Lesbian Couple

There are many ways the couple can enter, and much depends on how many attendants you have. The marriage ceremony begins with the mothers being seated in the front row aisle seats by an usher, a groomsman, or sometimes even the groom. Then the minister or officiant walks out (sometimes with one of the wedding parties). The best person and groomspeople may follow, or they may escort attendants from the back of the room and down the aisle. If there is a ringbearer, he or she follows the other attendants. The flower girl or boy, if there is one, usually enters right before the bride or couple.

For simple weddings, the same march can be used for the attendants and the couple. With several bridesmaids, you may want an introductory piece, followed by the wedding march for the partner(s) walking down the aisle. The mothers take the lead in standing up when the partner enters. If the partner's father or another man is escorting her/him down the aisle, he walks on the partner's right. He can simply escort her/him down the aisle and then sit down, or the officiant may ask, Who gives this person in marriage?, or Who blesses this marriage? The father/escort replies I do, Her mother and I do, or Her family and I do. The minister then says, Thank you. The father/escort may kiss the bride/groom on the cheek, and perhaps offer their right hand to the partner's left hand as they walk the last step to the front together. The father or escort then sits down in the first row.